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I Think My Girlfriend Might Be Pregnant

Published: November 8, 2012

You and your girlfriend had unprotected sex without using birth control, and now you think she may be pregnant. What do you do?

  • The first thing to do is to remember you don’t have to face this by yourself. You are not alone. You may be experiencing any number of emotions: anger, guilt, disbelief or love and tenderness. Whatever the case may be, don’t panic. Talk to an adult you trust (a parent, grandparent, pastor, guidance counselor, mentor or school nurse). There’s probably a lot on your mind right now, but you don’t have to keep it all to yourself.
  • Next, you should help your girlfriend confirm her pregnancy. You can do this either by purchasing a pregnancy test kit at a drug store or by taking her to a health clinic for a professional test.
  • If she is pregnant, offer to be with your girlfriend when she tells her parents. It will likely be a difficult and uncomfortable conversation, but it is the responsible thing to do.
  • The girl has the legal right to decide between raising the child, having an abortion or giving the child up for adoption. This is her decision to make, but what you say may have a large influence on her decision. At this point, it’s time for a heart-to-heart conversation.
  • Don’t delay, because denial won’t resolve the situation. It’s not going away, so the sooner you accept it, the better. The first three months of pregnancy are vital to the health and development of the baby.
  • Please don’t take desperate measures. If you are considering harming yourself or others, call 1-866-791-9224 for help. This is a toll-free call and the hotline is open 24 hours a day, seven days a week.
  • Learn from the experience. Sex has serious consequences. Next time think twice about whether you and your girlfriend are ready to have sex. If you decide you are, then make sure you use protection.